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Monday, 24 Oct 2016 18:57 EATskenana@kenyafreepress.com
With the schools closing dates just around the corner, parents are complaining about a number of things. I don’t have to be an experienced parent to talk about this but I find it completely weird for parents to be sad because their kids are coming back home for long holidays.
Some parent was reported saying that the government should compensate them for the school fees they paid for their kids because the government has reduced the term duration to allow candidates for national examinations take their papers in the absence of all other pupils and students. Another one reportedly complained that the economy is 'tough' and feeding her kid would be harder now, while yet another said his child spends a lot of time watching television.
Let me address parents. Dear parents, we are your children, not your burdens. You planned for us to come and now that we are here why should you complain that you have to provide us with the required basic needs? You take us to school to study and that is not a place that you dump us to avoid problems.
Yes, we will watch a lot of television, but we are on holiday so instead of complaining about that why not give us a programme? Don’t take us to our grandmothers' place to take care of us because you find our ‘demands’ too much because if she can take care of us then why can’t you?
We are coming back home not to be a burden, but to be of help. Yes we will help with the chores and the market and everything that you want us to. Yes, the cost of food will increase but you can take care of that, you always have when we were younger.
Dear parents, children need love and affection and how will they get that if you’ll be complaining because they are coming back home? The economy may not always favour everyone of course, but it’s not always about food. Let the kids control the remote for some time, just a little time. You don’t want them to feel they are in prison in their own house. Let them get a break from schools.
Children look up to their parents, parents are their role models. What picture are you portraying if you complain that they are coming back home? They are not coming back from school because of the money; sometimes the feeling of being home is more than enough. They might put a little pressure on you over this and that, they may want something you can’t afford but at the end of the day they are still your children and when you started a family, you knew what you were up against.
So instead of complaining why not embrace them and maybe work a little harder to be able to take care of them effectively. Praise your children for what they have done and correct them when they have gone wrong. If as parents you don’t help your children be comfortable enough to face the world, if you see them as burdens rather than gifts then there are low possibilities of them having the confidence they need.
Making time for children has always been essential to every parent-child relationship and that is why amidst every term there has to be a holiday. This is usually the right time to teach your children to grow up how you want them to, teach them the good morals and make them have that bond with you. It will give you the opportunity to set a good example to them. Besides, even if you don’t want them to be home right now, that time always comes when you wonder why they are not around so embrace your kids don’t push them away.